The use of additional technology makes your child selfish

 "When I told my son to close Windows, he turned off the laptop."

'My daughter will think of the screen by swiping her books too.'

This happy saying proves that 21st century parents are happy with their children's tech-savvy habits from an early age. 

"My sons and daughters are not irritated at all, they are busy all day on the phone." There is a complacency in saying that but it can play a role in your child's future. While technology may seem to help the child a little, it is often counterproductive. Allah Almighty has told us to make our children human in harmony with nature, do not forget that advice. 

At present, parenting has become quite difficult, especially for people like us who believe in Islam. We have some principles that often do not match the rest of the world. In order to maintain this principle, one has to take care of one's own behavior in a very conscious way. On the one hand, to maintain our own values, on the other hand, to keep pace with the world, we give our children devices like phones, laptops, Xbox. Forget it, childhood is the time to run around playing sports, now they are given the gift of a stagnant childhood. 

 When your child switches on the phone at the age of one and a half, or plays his favorite YouTube video at the age of three, you must think that he is more intelligent than others. In fact, just the opposite. The more he becomes immersed in technology and instruments, the less his ability to think independently will diminish. If you think about it, you will understand that you don't need a very sharp head to use a gadget. We learn to use a new phone in 2-3 days. Any device is made in such a way that people can use it easily. 

Naturally, boys and girls learn lifestyle through hearing, sight, touch and exploration. They make mistakes, learn from mistakes. As they grow older, their thinking and concentration increase. On the other hand, if they have more 'screen time' during this time, if they have a phone or laptop in their hand, they start losing attention first. 

The longer a child's screen time (laptop, TV, phone), the more he will be attracted to entertainment. Interest in knowing or learning something by hand will continue to decrease. Because of this, he is getting everything at hand. He is not acquiring knowledge, he is being served information. There is a big difference between collecting and serving! 

If a child can swallow all kinds of information from small to big, then his life becomes completely dependent on that information. As the child grows up in an artificial environment, his needs also become heavily dependent on virtual reality. For a time he began to believe that if his daily life was not documented on social media, there would be an imperfection in his daily life. 

If your child is exposed to technology and social media from an early age, he or she will grow up to be influenced by artificial and marketable thinking. It is not a problem to use the internet or phone just for reading, it is a problem when that use becomes excessive. 

However, technology cannot be completely removed in the current lifestyle. That's why there is a common guideline for children's screen timeঃ

0-18 months - No phone or laptop can be used. Sometimes without video chatting. 

18 months to 2 years - can be used for study only.

2-5 years - only one hour per day

More than 5 years - even if there is no specific screen time, parents need to keep track of how much time they are spending and what they are watching. 

The main purpose of Islam is to surrender oneself to the welfare of mankind. Seeing God in every creation. Finding joy in small experiences in life. True Muslims can be liberated only if they focus on charity instead of selfishness. Ismail's goal is to move from the material world to the spiritual world. Technology and social media, especially our phones, isolate us from that spiritual world. Makes selfish. We don't want our child to go through such a selfish world.

So, next time, when your child is crying, pick up the puzzle or building block without holding the phone in his hand. Teach him to draw if necessary. At least teach you to work with your hands. Because, technology makes your child lazy, that laziness can be overcome if it is combined with life. 

And, as faithful Muslims and Muslim women, Allah has given us the duty to raise our children through hard work.